I am not a fan of the co-addiction/codependency model. Our grief, our anxiety, and our fear are perfectly normal responses to the trauma we’ve been through. However, there are some great…
I write this blog as though readers have just found out about their husbands sexual addictions, and as though they’ve never been to a support group. Neither of these may be the case. …
There should be a word for it, the intuition we have that our husband has acted out, or is about to act out. I’ve been waiting for the feeling to…
Like you, I had been thrown from my notion of who I was in this world. I’d imagined that I had a solid marriage of seventeen years with a man…
I hope it is clear that I am not telling you what to do with your marriage or your predicament. You can divorce him if you like. You can…
It has always felt important to me to distinguish early on whether my husband was a sex addict or an ordinary man with a problem with fidelity. This distinction may…
What about affairs? Are they part of sex addiction? I discovered my husband’s affair, and then he told me that he was a sex addict. That was the order of…
He was going twice weekly to Sex Addicts Anonymous and rigorously following a 12-Step program. He had a sponsor, a community of men from whom he received support and…
For weeks after I told him to leave, I cried myself to sleep. For months I wondered if I’d done the wrong thing. But he didn’t really argue. He…
If you have read my other blogs you know that for a time my husband and I separated. A few months into the separation, I found myself with a…